Are you escaping from your problems or living with problems or learning to deal the problems? How are we handling our problems in the real life asked Swami Sukhabodhananda to his students?
In corporate, the most common problem the employees face is about the salary. Some may feel that their salary is not at par with their qualification whereas some people with less qualification may be earning more salary.
What the sufferer usually do with such feelings? They try to avoid finding an answer to such problems/question. When someone constantly avoids the problem that rock their mind would simply end up in sharpening the quality of escaping from the problem. Will such an effort help them to solve the problem?
If a lion or tiger or panther avoid hunting, can it have its meal or survive? Knowing fully well that it has not had a kill and ate its meal only persuade the animal to search for a hunt.
If someone feels sad for the less salary they receive, by avoiding they continues to receive more or less same salary and never be able to make big money.
Another common problem the corporate generation facing is about compatibility in the family life. Husband and wife love each other when both of them are away from home but once they are in the house, find it difficult understand or adjust with each other.
Usually the husband will be of the logic that he spends long hours in the office only for the sake of the family. Even when he is in the office, he emotionally thinks about the family. Unfortunately, when he come back home late, none is available to him to fill his emotional vacancy.
On the other hand, the wife also will have her genuine complaint against her husband. The whole day she is been toiling at home, taking care of everything and physically tired. Her husband is not supporting her whenever he is around.
Both of them are genuine and their complaint is true. They continue to live in problem and continue to fight all through life purely because they tend to escape from the problem rather than deal the situation.
Swami Sukhabodhananda explains that both the husband and wife must start seeing the problem differently and only then they could deal the situation.
The husband is looking for an emotional companion as his emotional space is vacant while the wife is looking for companion who will be compassionate towards her as she is toiling hard at home.
When two people with two different expectation levels meet, naturally their expectation only will increase and their expectation would never meet satiation. When two beggars meet, only beggary will increase.
To make difference, one needs to think and act differently. When the husband is available to the wife for her work and vice versa, instead breeding grief and complaint, they can reap everlasting happiness and trust.
Do not escapes from problems learn to address them, said Swamiji.
About the Author
Dr S Ranganathan, Director, ClinRise Derma Pvt., Ltd., Chennai